Now I'm hurt If I talk about Dan even a tiny bit John gets all sullen and won't talk to me for the rest of the day. He just can't get over it. HIS STATUS SAYS "LILLY <3" RIGHT NOW AND I'M NOT SULLEN.

That's the dumb thing about relationships. You can work as hard as possible on all your problems but that still won't guarantee things will work cause the other person always has a stupid problem of their own, and one they're unwilling to work on, I might add.